8 Tender Ways to Include Your Children in Your Wedding
Photo Credit: Katelyn Cantu
“Tying the knot” isn’t just a phrase. When you get married, it’s as if you’re gathering two families and tying them together, crafting an intricate bow with love, respect, and mutual trust in every strand. When you’re a parent, the knot is a little more delicate and complicated; while you gain a new partner, your children gain a new stepparent.
This melding of families is beautiful and rewarding, and it’s important to include your children in this big moment. Here at NOAH’S, we love to see all the tender ways couples incorporate their children into their special day. If getting your kids involved in your wedding seems daunting, don’t worry. We’ve cultivated 8 of our favorite ways to help your children become an integral part of your wedding day.
1. Invite them to help plan wedding details.
Ask your child to help pick out the ring, choose a theme, or find a dress. Bring them to a cake tasting, caterer tasting, not wine-tasting because of laws…but everything else! When you book a tour at NOAH’S, make sure to bring your children. The more you include your child in the preparation and details of the wedding day, the more they’ll feel invested and valuable during the event.
2. Assign a task or role to your child.
The role of a child in a wedding doesn’t have to be limited to flower girl or ring bearer. Maid-of-honor, man-of-honor, decorator, coordinator, and made-up roles all work to make your child feel vital to the success of your wedding. Handing your child a disposable camera and assigning them the task of “wedding photographer” is a great way to capture sweet moments while helping them feel included.
3. Give them a morning-of gift.
On the morning of the big day, prepare a special gift for your child and a private moment to present it to them. This is the time to tell them how much they mean to you and express your enthusiasm for your growing family and their role in it.
4. Let them create a signature drink.
NOAH’S pioneered the open-vendor policy which allows you to bring a caterer or your own food to an event. Let your child pick a favorite milkshake from a local ice cream shop or soda flavor that you can buy in box-loads to offer alongside the couple’s signature drink selections.
5. Break tradition; ask your child to walk you down the aisle.
Your child walking with you down the aisle is the perfect symbolic gesture to show that two family units are merging into one. You’re not the only one gaining a new family member, your children are, too! Walk together toward your newest family addition. If you have more than one child or children from both sides, include all of them during this part of the wedding ceremony. Your son on one side of you, your daughter on the other, walking toward their new stepparent and step-siblings could be the most touching moment of the day.
6. Write them a set of vows.
When you become a part of a family, it isn’t just the parents that promise their commitment to one another. Taking the time to write and read a set of vows to your new stepchild helps them feel special and loved. It’s always an unforgettable and sweet moment when a NOAH’S couple invites their children to stand with them in front of the draping fabric in the Main Hall or under the Outdoor Patio arch and promises to them that they will strive to build a complete and happy familial unit. A sweet and endearing moment like this is sure to make your child or children feel connected to you, your partner, and the event.
7. Include them in the unity ceremony.
Whether you’re having a traditional unity candle or sand ceremony or a nontraditional alternative, include your children! This ceremony symbolizes your life-long commitment to each other and the joining of two lives, two families. Let your children help light the candle or include multiple colors of sand, one for each family member. Maybe do something completely new, like invite each family member to leave a handprint on a canvas that can be displayed in your home.
8. Present a toast to your kids.
Guests and relatives will be toasting to you all night long, but this is a big milestone for your children as well. Take the time to present a toast to your children. You can even emphasize this special toast by utilizing NOAH’S Main Hall stage that rises out of the floor, turning all eyes on your child during their special moment in the spotlight.
Getting married is one of the biggest moments in your life, but it’s life-changing for your children, too. Taking the time to incorporate your children into your wedding will make sure they feel valued and loved during the event, and it’s a great way to kickstart your lives together as a family! We’d love to be a part of your special day; schedule a tour at NOAH’S Event Venue and absolutely feel free to bring your kiddos along!