How to Manage Unwanted Wedding Opinions
Photo: Evaro Photography
A funny thing happens when you plan a wedding. Out of nowhere, and seemingly without cause, everyone you know is suddenly a wedding expert with an opinion. Your friend that dawdles in photography would love to shoot your wedding, and your cousin will happily offer to make your wedding cake—after all, they need practice. On top of these offers, you’ll get a lot of advice. It’s almost as if everyone has planned your dream wedding before. “You don’t want a ballgown dress, do you?” “Navy wedding details? Are you sure? That’s not really you.” Just remember that 1. Unless they actually are experts, your family and friends are not experts, and 2. You can always say no!
Because finding a venue is one of the first things you should do while planning your wedding, we here at NOAH’S Event Venue get to interact with couples throughout their planning process. We’ve seen debates, discussions, and conversations between couples and their loved ones, and we’ve picked up a few tips and tricks on how to handle all the not-so-wanted opinions friends and family throw your way.
Saying “no” can be tough when trying to avoid hurt feelings, but luckily, there are times when deflecting can work just fine! In other words, there are ways to stop suggestions and wedding opinions without being abrupt. Need some tactics? Try these!
“Thank you so much, but I’m actually taking a break from planning the wedding. How are you doing?”
“That’s a great idea, but I really want my wedding to be a bit of a surprise!”
“Wow, that’s an awesome suggestion, but our vendor is actually already taking care of that.”
“Thanks for the input, but we’re already nailing down the final details now.”
You can also compromise. Give your amateur photographer buddy something to do with lower stakes like shooting engagement pictures or taking additional photos while the main photographer shoots the ceremony. Maybe your caterer-in-the-making aunt could serve up some food for the rehearsal dinner or engagement party.
As always, it’s okay to outright say “no.” Just do so in a kind and understanding way. “Hey, I know this is really important to you, but I’ve made my decision. I have a vision for my special day and this (idea/suggestion/offer) doesn’t fit. Thank you for being so invested in the success of my wedding. It means a lot to me.”
When it comes to hurt feelings, you have to remember that it’s your big day. And yeah, that means your priorities and decisions are the most important. But this day is also very important to your loved ones, and they’ll be invested in your wedding, too. If you really want to avoid hurting feelings during the planning process of your wedding, embrace every concern, opinion, and hurt friend with understanding and care. This is your wedding; handle it with grace and love. After all, “love” is the point of the celebration, right?
If you’re still searching for a banquet hall or event center nearby to celebrate all this awesome love—because it really is awesome, keep in mind that NOAH’S Event Venue has affordable decor packages, stunning lighting options, and an open-vendor policy that makes creating your dream wedding day simple, fun, and lovely. Schedule a tour today!